Why choose to use social media less and less
To be honest, I always have been far from social media. I don`t want to share personal things with people. I don`t feel the need to share my pictures just to show how cool life I am living or how cool friends I have. It is enough if I know. It is so enough.
I am more interested in developing myself and feeling and sharing my time with people I love.
But, although, I said all that, I still use facebook and Instagram. I scroll them every day to see if anyone has added something new. And really, why am I doing this. It is wasting my time. I am getting information about people who are in my friends list, lots of people who I don’t really know anything about. But I know what they ate for dinner and who is their new life partner. I don`t need to be informed, really.
So every day I am filled with satisfaction that I know what is going on. But really? My mind is cluttered with utterly useless info. But it is like an addiction. I feel good when I am scrolling.
I believe that as much as it is important to watch what I eat it is also important to be careful with whom I am and what kind of information I am consuming. A lot from that info is not good for me. I am responsible for that. I get to choose how I spend my time. But all this social media is taking our freedom to choose away. Because it is just so freakingly addictive. It is pure bio chemistry that controls our behavior.
Here comes into play a neurochemical – dopamine. Dopamine is a neurochemical created in various parts of the brain and is responsible for all sorts of brain functions, including thinking, moving, sleeping, mood, attention, motivation, seeking and reward. Because of dopamine giving us the desire to seek and be rewarded is where the issue of instant gratification comes in. With the internet, twitter, and texting, instant gratification of your desire to seek is available at the click of a button. You can talk to anyone just by sending a text and they respond in a few seconds. All the information you could want is readily available by a google search.
So actually, we think we make our own choices, but actually it is our body that makes all the choosing. And furthermore, our body makes those decisions by what the media has given to it.
It is only the discipline and deep love for ourselves that makes us move away from that outside world and look more into the inside. At that point what others think becomes unimportant. I don`t need the outside world to say I am worthy because I know that already. I don’t need to post inspirational quotes to show others how spiritual I am, it is enough if I know that.
Just think about all that free time that can be gained. That 10 minutes in the morning when you wake up and scroll Facebook could be used to do some exercises or meditation. That Facebook scrolling you do at work could be spend reading something useful, a book, or just stretching. It is amazing if that time would all be saved from harmful behavior and used for something that gives you fulfilment and feeling that you are improving.
Trust me, it is worth it. Think about what really matters.